tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701114292967665697.post2389495531543576162..comments2024-03-06T06:00:00.509-08:00Comments on plufrompdx: Equal timeUnknownnoreply@blogger.comBlogger8125tag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701114292967665697.post-5939252100744319832010-11-18T00:12:43.097-08:002010-11-18T00:12:43.097-08:00I don't like it that my gf doesn't call so...I don't like it that my gf doesn't call so I call her. A lot! I don't like that she often walks behind me in say Home Depot then wanders off to another aisle while I march ahead not knowing where she is. It is frustrating - my feeling being wait we are supposed to be doing this together. I don't like that she doesnt think to share feelings sometimes esp when my feelings may be totally different. Sometimes it seems she shares more with her damn sister than me. BUT she is 74 & aint gona change. We've been together 29yrs & I trust her now altho' in the beginning she is so beautiful I couldn't believe she wouldn't be more interested in other women always throwing themselves at her. She has stayed true & proven she loves me by now, so i don't complain AS MUCH. smile. But I am always thinking of her & missing her when I'm gone. I live for her, she lives for her family, her children, her grandchildren as well as me. It's lopsidded. Nothing's perfect.KMaehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04359800799114686974noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701114292967665697.post-82554109980045214202010-11-01T09:40:11.959-07:002010-11-01T09:40:11.959-07:00Wow, you are all so damned wise! Thank you for of...Wow, you are all so damned wise! Thank you for offering advice, opinion, commentary.<br /><br />Weese: the leash does bother me. And, there used to be too much drama and retribution in being late but that has subsided. I definitely need to ponder. And, ditto what Greg said, nice to see you ~ hope you are ok.<br /><br />Greg: thank you. I'm trying to be fair. T has done a lot of growing and changing and I appreciate it. I also need to step up and do more myself. Work in progress...<br /><br />8thday: The funny thing is, I'm a worrier too! I totally get it. I've just got this damned blind spot right now and I need to fix that.<br /><br />thEb: I know! Perfect storm indeed. I love your suggestion of turning it around as a way to help her. Phone call = chicken soup. I can do that!<br /><br />Darlene: I am embarrassed to say that I might do the same thing. I think, however, that I would say something like "I'll be right back" and then wander off. I wouldn't feel like I had to explain my every action, but I would feel like you should understand that I might just like to roam around a little. It's the whole 'joined at the hip' thing. I'm not and she is. We're different like that, I guess.<br /><br />tod: it's awesome, innit?! All these smart women! the weekend was ok, thank goodness we both have the ability to get over stuff.ehttp://plufrompdx.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701114292967665697.post-90604236156709736472010-10-30T15:29:56.138-07:002010-10-30T15:29:56.138-07:00just hangin out soaking up all the golden nuggets ...just hangin out soaking up all the golden nuggets dropped. <br /><br />hope the weekend (so far) is a good un.Middle Girlhttps://www.blogger.com/profile/12334580430376973159noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701114292967665697.post-21325247650462840412010-10-30T11:25:53.455-07:002010-10-30T11:25:53.455-07:00I love to read your blog because you seem to mirro...I love to read your blog because you seem to mirror my relationship so well. Only I am often the one in your girlfriend's position so I am learning from reading you what may or may not be the dynamics in my situation. Which brings me to ask a question.<br />Recently we were at a large political rally. One of the organizers asked the group which was growing extremely large,to move across the street to a vacant lot. I turned and started to follow this leader as did every one else EXCEPT my partner. She just walked off in the opposite direction without saying a word to me. Granted she came back and found me across the street but when I asked her where she went, she said, "Oh, I just wanted to ask the camera guy a question.' I was upset. My take was that it was rude to just walk off without so much as a word of warning. Again, the same dynamics are here as when I ask her to call if she is late leaving work so I at least have some idea when to set the table. (She says the same thing; she feels like she is on a leash.) So am I wrong for feeling like she should have said something to me and at least giving me the courtesy of a) walking with her to ask her question b) gone on ahead like I did and hope we don't get seperated in the crowd, or c) just pretend like I am at the function alone? Would love to hear your take on this.Darlenehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/04878793245709280652noreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701114292967665697.post-19693625311464303392010-10-30T09:53:43.559-07:002010-10-30T09:53:43.559-07:00Let's see... she has trust issues and you have...Let's see... she has trust issues and you have control issues. Now, that's what I call the perfect storm.<br /><br />Practically speaking, you could set an alarm on your clock to remind you to call. Of course, you'd have to remember to set the alarm. <br /><br />Her wanting you to call is part of the trust thing. Maybe you should think of the call not as a leash but as a way you can help her heal. Turn the tables on her trust problem and your control problem at the same time.<br /><br />If she had a cold you'd take care of her, yes? Chicken soup, orange juice, aspirin etc. You'd check on her, make sure she's ok, yes? <br /><br />Having trust issues is a type of injury. Your phone call is chicken soup.<br /><br />After she gets better, you won't need to make as much chicken soup.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701114292967665697.post-3254987539964483872010-10-29T12:30:43.268-07:002010-10-29T12:30:43.268-07:00I am mostly in T's corner on this one. I am t...I am mostly in T's corner on this one. I am the worrier.<br /><br />Still, isn't it nice to know that someone is at home and cares enough about you to worry? There are worse things. <br /><br />Like any habit, I think once you do it enough, it will become second nature to you.8thdayhttp://www.8thdayplanner.blogspot.comnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701114292967665697.post-35240534990185965872010-10-29T11:54:35.330-07:002010-10-29T11:54:35.330-07:00I'm seeing this as a good thing. You see both ...I'm seeing this as a good thing. You see both your sides and are working towards making things better on your end. That's positive stuff. Now, cut yourself some much-deserved slack. All <br />new(ish) things take time to get used to.<br /><br />Also, it's good to "see" you, weese. I hope you are well.Anonymousnoreply@blogger.comtag:blogger.com,1999:blog-8701114292967665697.post-47186235828265676482010-10-29T11:51:22.701-07:002010-10-29T11:51:22.701-07:00I think you may want to ponder further about this ...I think you may want to ponder further about this leash concept. it may be bothering you more than you know.<br />when i am out longer than expected, i want to call home...generally i want to be home. so its not something i need to remember. also.. if for some reason i don't call home - there is not retribution waiting for me. especially if i am simply late from somewhere i already said i would be. <br />the whole excuse of ..well you could have been in an accident... that really doesn't fly in the day of cell phones.weesehttps://www.blogger.com/profile/15618625306145677343noreply@blogger.com