21 April 2011

Update from the Rose City!

Wow!  What a crazy couple of weeks it has been! 

When last I wrote to you all, we had just returned from the Twilight pilgrimage where a good time was had by our quirky, blended family.  We had barely gotten the sand shaken out of our shoes and shorts when something so amazing and wonderful happened that I am still stunned. 

My daughter called two or three days after she got back to Iowa.  She said that she realized how much she missed living in Portland.  She missed her family and friends, she missed mountains and forests and the ocean, she missed the funky vibe of the city.  She asked if she could come back and stay for a month or so.

Yes, that’s right.  She wants to come back!  She asked me if she could stay with us for a month or two.  Ha!  I told her that she never has to ask, this is her home and she is welcome in it whenever she chooses to stay.  She insisted that I ask T if it was alright, which I did, and of course it was.

So, at first she was going to come back in a couple of weeks.  Then it was right after the boyfriend’s birthday.  Then it was the following weekend.  In the end, she left within a week of calling me.  She decided to drive out.  I offered to fly out and drive with her, but she wanted to do it on her own.  Well, I understand that.  A long solo car trip is a rite of passage, especially out here in the wide open west.  She wanted to have her car here when she arrived, and wanted to bring some of her things that would cost too much to ship.  She brought both her lap top and desk top computers.  And, more than that, she brought her cat.  Yes, let that sink in for a moment ~ she brought her cat.

Now, she has assured me that she and the boyfriend are not breaking up or separating.  Pity.  But, she has definitely matured in their relationship and is no longer doing everything his way.  We have had some long (and short) chats about that.  She told him that she is moving back to Portland with or without him and he needs to get on board.  I am so relieved to see her regain her sense of self and her stubbornness and her will.  She’s got all that, and it’s time to let it shine.

So, the last couple of weeks I’ve had my kid back.  Heaven!  This also means that we have a full house and lots going on.  It wasn’t too long ago that I was living alone in relative silence.  Sometimes, it’s true, I miss that quiet bookish existence, but mostly I am pretty darned happy.

Right now, the boyfriend is visiting.  It was Zoe’s birthday on Tuesday (27!) and he came out for a few days.  They are staying at a hotel.  Zoe told him that he needed to leave by Saturday since my birthday is Sunday (52!).  All in all, this spring is shaping up to be a pretty happy one.

I’ve got lots more to tell you, but so little time to write it down.  I’ll keep at it though, because I know that you all are on Pins And Needles waiting to hear how this saga plays out!  :-)


Anonymous said...

I am SO happy for you, having your daughter home with you for so long must be just what you needed. I hope the rest of her stay is wonderful...and boyfriend-free. :)

Happy Birthday on Sunday!!!

8thdayplanner said...

Thanks for the happy news update.

I am holding my girls closer, knowing it won't be long before it's their turn to fly.

I will be travelling this weekend so if I don't get to the internet -happy, happy birthday to you!

the only daughter said...

iNow, she has assured me that she and the boyfriend are not breaking up or separating. Pity.

I know the feeling. Truly

But, yeah for the return and happy, happier, happiest days ahead.

Happy, happy, joy, joy on the celebration of your birth.

eb said...

What a great birthday present. Awesome. Enjoy each moment. Silence is good. Clamor is good. A happy balance is the best.

Anonymous said...

I'm so happy for you and envious, too--envious that you have that kind of relationship with your daughter. Also glad that she's "laid down the law" a little bit with the boyfriend. Guess you will see if he gets on board with it or not. In the mean time, enjoy and happy early BD!


Jen said...

Happy Birthday and hope it was fabulous!

Are we sharing a decade now? Someday soon we will have to raise our glasses to the PNW in person

e said...

Thank you for all the birthday love! Overall, I'd have to say that I had a pretty good time. And we even had a lovely sunny day last weekend. Nice!