I have to go with a seasonal theme today. Thanksgiving.
I love Thanksgiving. The ‘giving’ consists of food, family and friendship. It isn’t a shopping extravaganza kind of holiday. Except for the food shopping, I guess.
This year, I am going to the in-laws on Thursday. I’ve gotten out of it for a few times, and I would be happy getting out of it forever. That sounds rude, I know, and I don’t truly mean to be rude, but honestly, my mother in law is not a good cook. She’s a family cook. True, she has cooked in diners for years, but more along the lines of a short order kind of cook. She makes the same dishes she always makes. It’s their family’s traditional comfort food. It’s also pretty bad. Or, maybe I should say, it isn’t what I grew up eating.
Instead of feeling disappointed in the meal and the holiday, I am adjusting my expectations. I’m not going for the food. I’m not even going for the company. I’m going because it will make my partner happy. For a bonus, it will make her mom happy too, and there’s nothing wrong with that. It will be loud, too hot, televisions on in two different rooms, a small yappy dog underfoot all day long, mediocre food, and the mother in law (who is nearly deaf) bossing everyone and wielding a wooden spoon. As long as I know this and plan ahead for it, I’ll be fine. I’m going to lay claim to a remote control, put on some football, sit on a couch and watch a game and smile through the whole thing. I can be nice!
On Friday, I will cook a small Thanksgiving dinner for myself, my partner, my dad and my crazy brother (who may or may not come). I have purchased the turkey breast. I have planned out my menu. I have done most of the shopping and will be ready. This will be a delicious meal. And I will be giving thanks twice.
What are you all doing?