18 July 2016

Change is in the air

Hey You Excellent People!

Yes, both of you!

I’m popping in to give an update.  Things are changing around here.  For the better.  

T and I are in the process of changing our living arrangement.  She has bought a condo north of Vancouver and will be moving in mid-August.

We are not breaking up.  We are finding a different way to be together.

I’m happy about it. 



Middle Girl said...

Well, now. ♥ that you're happy. Happy for you (both).

e said...

Thank you for the happiness!

8thday said...

Well, change can be hard but also very, very refreshing. I so happy you two are finding new ways to be together and that it is going smoothly. Doing my happy dance for you!

e said...

Thank you for the happy dance! I hope it continues to be a smooth transition.

Anonymous said...

This is an interesting idea. I hope it works out well for both of you. :) (And I'm still here!)

Secret Agent Woman said...

I guess I'm fuzzy on what the living arrangement was before, but if you are both happy with the change that's all that matters. So congratulations!

e said...

35Jupe: Thank you for the hope! I am cautiously optimistic that this is the best way for us to go forward. I'll let you know!

Secret Agent: We had the typical 'living together with too many pets' arrangement. Ok, I just threw in the pets, but what the heck. Now we will be living apart with fewer pets in each household. Look at me trying to make it about the pets, ha! It's about the humans.

Tree C said...

Good for you for finding a way to honor love and commitment for yourselves, both as individuals and as members of a partnership.

I'm someone who doesn't fit into boxes well and while I'm not currently in a partnership, when I have been, it never worked for me to do things in a "mainstream" way. Not because of fidelity issues - I'm not polyamourous - but just because I'm not in an in the box type person and this is as true for me in partnership as in anything else.

I need a lot of freedom in order to connect in that way. Maybe that's part of it. I don't know.

Or maybe it's about the pets! I like that and think I'll borrow it. ;-)


e said...

Tree: "I need a lot of freedom in order to connect in that way." This pretty much sums it up.
I've spent a lot of time thinking about why it is that I cannot function well with a live-in partner. I don't think there is an answer beyond 'because that's how I am'. Yes, I do have to honor that about myself. It's not a defect, it's not something that needs to be fixed, it's just how I am. And, I am grateful that I have the financial ability to live alone.

(Oh, also not poly or having fidelity issues - on either side)

Thanks for your comment!